Just MY 2 cents …. Children vs Zero Tolerance 6-year-old suspended for kissing girl Every time I hear a story like this, my immediate reaction is: WHERE is the OUTRAGE??? WHERE is the COMMON SENSE??? WTH is WRONG with PEOPLE??? In this instance, I agree with the commentator … WHERE, OH WHERE
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Just MY 2 cents ….
Children vs Zero Tolerance
Every time I hear a story like this, my immediate reaction is:
WHERE is the OUTRAGE???
WHERE is the COMMON SENSE???
WTH is WRONG with PEOPLE???
In this instance, I agree with the commentator … WHERE, OH WHERE are the GROWN UPS here?!!!
First, I am appalled that a child of six would be “suspended” for ANYTHING short of violence.
Second, I am appalled that a child of six would have a “PERMANENT” record of behavior short of violence.
Third, I am appalled that a child of six would EVER be deemed a “SEXUAL HARASSER” for ANY reason short of extreme mentally unbalanced behavior or physical abuse.
Forth, I am appalled at the lack of any kind of commons sense or the lack of appropriateness of reaction and/or punishment that this Administration and this school district has shown in their policy to police such matters, especially in dealing with children of SIX!
Fifth, I am appalled that in order to get this situation corrected this entire situation had to go on national news rather than dealing with it like true REASONABLE and RESPONSIBLE adults should.
Sixth, I am appalled that there is NOT MORE OUTRAGE in the general public whenever things of this nature happen … and they ARE happening more and more with more and more ridiculous situations and younger and younger children BECAUSE of the lack of outrage!
I really NEED to ask …. What is WRONG with people????
AFTER the backlash that this Administrator received, she finally announced that she was going to take the “SEXUAL HARASSMENT” off of this child’s “PERMANENT RECORD” and replaced it with “MISCONDUCT”.
Mighty freaking magnanimous of her! … NOT!
She said that she had received tons of calls and emails regarding this situation and was upset because the comments she received were mean and even threatening in their tone.
Well, to quote a six year old …. “Duh!” …. Seriously, what DID she really expect?
Anyone with common sense and decency would be outraged at something like this, unfortunately it does not seem as if the people with the power to affect and impact the “PERMANENT RECORD” of a six year old, seems to have such sense and decency any more.
WOULD she have changed his “PERMANENT RECORD” IF she had NOT received such a backlash?
I doubt it.
Personally, I believe for children (especially children of this age when they are just starting to develop social skills and are just starting the process of learning what appropriate social behavior is and isn’t), when they misbehave they SHOULD be disciplined and taught that there will be consequences for their actions. However, the punishment should FIT the crime, NOT just reflect a thoughtless, generic, one-size-fits all response. In addition to this, unless the behavior is unreasonably excessive, while I think it is perfectly appropriate to notate situations such as this in order to determine if there are any patterns or behavioral issues that need to be addressed during the school year, at the end of a school year or at the very least at the end of a particular period of developmental time, these notes should be expunged and should not be part of ANY “PERMANENT RECORD” that may unfairly affect the student’s future image.
I applaud the Mother of this child for sticking up for her child and fighting this and I applaud those that called and emailed too express their reasonable outrage. I wish MORE people would do just this whenever confronted with such situations.
I am sick to death of this “I have to follow policy” crap!
I’m sick to death of people MAKING “ZERO TOLERANCE” policies!
“ZERO TOLERANCE” brings us situations such as this and others such as suspending a child for taking bites out of a pop tart to make it look like a gun and then being suspended for doing so because another child reports it to a teacher. What utter NONSENSE! What utter INSANITY!
Worse is the response of the Administration when confronted about these suspensions, they simply act surprised that they are being questioned and say “We have a ZERO TOLERANCE Policy in this school district, so my hands are tied.” It’s policy. I followed policy. Period. As if this should immediately snuff out any conflict or public outrage and absolve them of any wrong doing in the matter.
“ZERO TOLERANCE” policies are more often than not used as a shield or cop out for NOT using the sense, decency and/or discretion that may make an individual take a stand against others possibly in authority positions and God forbid that anyone do what they think is right and have to stand behind their decisions and fight for them.
I so miss the days of common sense, character and decency.
I miss the days when children were given guidance rather than always given punishments. Where guidance, correction and punishments actually fit the crimes.
I miss the days, where people used common sense, decency and personal and situational discretion when dealing with others rather than robotically looking at policy and picking a predetermined, one-size fits all “option” whether it truly fit the situation or not, especially when dealing with CHILDREN!
I miss the days, when a person was shown that their actions were wrong, they wanted to correct it and did something about it on their own, because they critically thought it through and came up with an appropriate resolution without being FORCED into it by unpopular public opinion.
I miss the days when people looked out for children rather than throwing them under the bus so to speak just because they DO act like children.
What ARE we teaching our children?
What ARE they GETTING from all of this?
In this instance, they are getting QUITE an education, aren’t they?!
This child (as well as any others that are now hearing of this) now wants to know what “SEXUAL HARASSMENT” IS!
So on top of everything else here, this poor Mother is now going to be forced into figuring out HOW to not only explain sex to a six year old, but also how to explain the very adult concept of sexual harassment to this same SIX YEAR OLD!
Even if he is able to grasp the ADULT concept of sex, is he REALLY going to be able to grasp the even more adult concept of the sexual harassment aspect of it? And if he does, HOW is that going to impact and affect him as an individual through his intellectual, emotional and sexual growth in the future?
When are WE going to wake up to what we are DOING to our CHILDREN?
We want them to act like adults when they are children and then we want them to act like children when they are adults.
What ARE we teaching our children?
At least in THIS kind of incident, rather than gently guiding a child through these perfectly NATURAL emotional responses to someone they like with more appropriate responses, we are teaching them that to show love and affection for someone they like it is not only wrong but a shameful and punishable offence.
Is that really what we want our children to learn of such things?
Rather than teaching children appropriate responses to “see something, say something” regarding truly bad, dangerous or evil situations, we are encouraging, demanding, applauding and rewarding them to “report” every little event or situation and then compounding this by over or under reaction, as if being in Kindergarten or First Grade should be like a scene from 1984! ( George Orwell’s 1984 explained )
Is that really what we want our children to learn of such things?
Fortunately for this child, his Mother fought for him, but in many of these situations that we DON’T hear about, the parents and general public just seem to accept the punishments without much fuss or comment and the children learn that there is no recourse, so they are being “CONDITIONED” to accept such wrong minded, over-zealous outcomes without much fuss or comment as well.
We teach our children these things and then have the gall to act shocked, appalled and/or mortified when they grow up into angry, mean spirited, thoughtless, uncaring, inhumane, spite filled adolescents that act inappropriately, disrespectfully and unmannerly, as well as ignoring or fighting against any kind of authority over their inappropriate behavior.
On one hand, we teach our children that they have NO responsibility for their actions or the outcomes of their actions, through our “everyone’s a winner, nobody is a looser” theologies and then we confuse the situation further by teaching them that they have to act like adults in adult situations without benefit of BEING an adult or understanding the situations we thrust then into. Then we compound it further yet by telling them that when they ARE adults, they aren’t responsible for their actions or lack of actions so don’t worry if they can’t survive in the world beyond their family home and situation because Mommy and Daddy will take care of everything and THEN coming full circle, we are again appalled and outraged at their inappropriate but CONDITIONED behaviors or lack thereof.
Is it any wonder that we have a society and culture that is such a mess?
When are we going to wake up to the fact that OUR actions or lack of actions and our acceptance and support of such things are the direct root cause and these situations are the direct effect?!
During my rant on Twitter yesterday, a friend said that it was a shame that we can’t do something about things like this. I would argue that we CAN do something about this, we just seem reluctant to DO it.
Each and every one of us, whether we have children or not, need to start paying attention to things that affect the children around us. Those children are our future. Whether they are ours or not, they WILL affect and impact us as individuals, as well as a society and culture and we’d better start standing up to fight for those children before we loose them altogether!
How do we do this?
We get involved. We act and interact with children, teachers, administrators, school boards, other parents, as well as local government entities. We do whatever we NEED to do in order to make common sense, decency and appropriate discretion be part of the policies that govern our children and our society.
Know your rights. If you have school aged children, make sure you get a copy of the Children’s and Parental Rights from your schools. Learn them and enforce them when necessary and always fight them when necessary.
Be advocates! Do not go quietly into that good night … especially when it involves our children!
If YOU think its not right, then QUESTION IT.
If you still think its not right, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
STOP simply accepting things just because they are the way they are.
That kind of attitude has gotten us here and it can only stop IF WE do something about it and don’t think “I’m only one person, what can I do” …
Jesus was only one person, look what HE did.
Gandhi was only one person, look what HE did.
Martin Luther King Jr was only one person, look what HE did.
Rosa Parks was only one person, look what SHE did.
Anne Frank was only one person, look what SHE did.
Oskar Schindler was only one person, look what HE did.
Adolf Hitler was only one person, look what HE did.
Obama is only one person, look what HE is doing!
Stand up for what is RIGHT, regardless of whether you stand alone or in a crowd … remember, sometimes all it takes IS ONE person taking a stand to START a crowd standing!
One person can ALWAYS make a difference.
BE THAT ONE PERSON!
Remember, even if YOU don’t SEE it, you never KNOW what you spark in others …. stand up for what you believe in. Stand up for what is right and fight against what is wrong … BEFORE it’s too late and you don’t have the option.
Now what are YOU going to DO about it?
End rant …..
I now return you to your regularly scheduled programming …..